What to do when You Feel Like You’ve Blown it, Mama

Tonight we will talk about how even the best mamas have days when they feel like they’ve blown it. Overwhelm can win and words can get short. We can feel like we’ve failed our families. We will talk about God’s beautiful plan for motherhood and how His grace meets us right in our weakest moments, mama. 

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Good evening, mamas, and welcome back to Midlight, your light in the middle of the night. Tonight I want to talk to you, mamas, about the importance of your role as a mama and what to do on those days when you blow it. First of all, I want to talk to you about God's plan for you as a mama. I think it's incredible that God allows us to become pregnant with our babies, carry them in our womb, love them before we ever see them, and then tend to them for the rest of their lives. Even when they've grown and flown, we still have opportunities to speak into them. And some of you may have become a mother this way, and some of you may have become a mother without carrying that baby in your womb, but you still have a great love for that child that you can't even describe where it comes from. Well I can. It comes from a loving God who gives good gifts. In fact, his word says that every good and perfect gift is from above, and from him there is no variation or turning. You know, we can get into this role of motherhood and have the best of intentions, and then have days where we feel completely overwhelmed. Maybe the dishes have stacked up, maybe the floor is so dirty you have to walk around with socks on. Perhaps it's that there isn't a single clean item for your baby, and those things they kind of wreck us as a mama, and then before we know it, we fall into shortness with those around us, those that we love so dearly. I'm gonna encourage you, mama, even with the best of intentions, we will have moments where we will blow it as a mama, we'll lose our cool, we won't want to do it, we might even be huffy or say things we don't necessarily mean to say. But I want to remind you that the Lord is with you even in those moments, even in the blow it moments, God is with us. Mamas, when you start to feel yucky inside for the way you may have acted or felt towards your family, I want to remind you that God gives us another opportunity to do it again, and we can ask for forgiveness from the Lord, from our families if we need to, and we can start again. If you blow it, it doesn't mean you've blown it forever. It just means we get another opportunity to watch God's grace at work in our lives as mamas. I go back to the verse that Jesus told us in this world, you will have trouble, but take heart, I've overcome the world. He's so right, he has overcome the world. And there's a place in scripture where God tells us something so beautiful, and it's in 2 Corinthians chapter 12 and verse 9, and he says, My grace is sufficient for you, my strength is made perfect in weakness. Isn't that beautiful? And it goes on, and it's Paul who's writing in this chapter, and he says, I take pleasure in infirmities and reproaches, in needs and persecutions and distress for Christ's sake, for when I am weak, then I am strong. I think it's easy for us to forget that perfection is not expected as mamas, but our hearts matter. So when the Lord tells us this that his grace is sufficient for us, we might even not feel worthy at times for his sufficient grace, but it is there for us, and I love how he says that in our weakness he is made strong. Mamas, the way out of a day where you feel like you've blown it, or a moment where you feel like you've blown it, is to come honestly before the Lord and say, I am weak here, I screwed up, I said things I shouldn't, I had a heart that was ugly towards this or that, and come before the Lord and ask him to be your strength, ask him to show his strength and your weakness, and do not be afraid to ask for forgiveness and look it right in the face, handle it head on, and then mamas, move on. Do it differently next time. Take a breath, give yourself margins, give your family the best version of you as you walk with the Lord as a mama in this home, and mama, they will see it and they will witness your humanness with you, but they will also witness a mama who's quick to run to the Lord and ask for forgiveness, and maybe even others if that is needed, to ask forgiveness, and they will learn to do the same as they grow up, because we do not expect perfection from them as they become adults, but we do care about their hearts, don't we? So I encourage you tonight, mamas, to be a great example to your children of honesty, of love, of what to do when you mess up or you blow it, and how to come before the Lord and ask for his forgiveness and his strength. And mama, I'm gonna tell you, I don't know a single mama who hasn't had a moment that they wish they had done something different. So if you have found yourself in that moment lately, I encourage you to know you're not alone. I encourage you to pull your bootstraps up and do it differently this time. Carry on from here and know that the Lord your God is with you and he loves you, and when we come before him boldly and with honesty and with humility, God will meet us in those places and help us to turn our day around, turn our night around, turn our hearts towards him and towards our families, and we can try again. So, mamas, that's my encouragement for you tonight here on Midlight. You are so loved, you are valuable to both the Lord and your families, and God is going to work through you as He teaches you, then you teach your children, and you begin to leave a legacy of humility, honesty, and love for your children. What a beautiful gift that God allows us to be the ones to in the daily way distribute the grace, distribute the honesty, and be real with our families. So mamas, tonight I will leave you with a prayer of blessing from numbers 6, 24 through 26. May the Lord bless you and keep you and make his face to shine upon you, be gracious unto you and give you peace. Amen. Until next time, mamas, just remember your motherhood is valuable, and on the days when you feel like you've blown it a little, remember that God is there to come in and help you again. Until next time, mamas, take care.